Intimacy for One: Baltimore Edition

417024576_ebd55392fc_bIntimacy for One: Baltimore Edition

Charm City. The city that reads. Home of the Wire. Home of the Ravens and the Orioles. Bird city. Baltimore. All of these titles are ways to describe Baltimore but when it comes to sex and relationships, there aren’t always a lot of different things to do….unless one knows where to look. This is the local edition of Intimacy for one. Taking a step back and talking about four different things there are to do around the city that a) won’t blow the budget and b) promote a way to get closer with one’s self without a partner.

Baltimore is home to some of the most charming sites. One of the most popular and favorite places to visit is the Inner Harbor. I’m sure you’re thinking, “Inner Harbor, that has to be expensive.” Well not necessarily. Many of the restaurants and attractions on the Harbor can be expensive but a nice stroll around the harbor without a significant other enjoying the sights and people watching is a way to spend quality time. During the school year, Baltimore Aquarium often times has Fridays after 5 where after 5pm the cost of admission is significantly reduced (Check local listings for times and prices). Strolling aimlessly through the harbor without a care in the world has been a great way to spend an afternoon or even and evening but its not the only way. It is easily Accessible by MTA bus and the FREE Charm City Circular (Purple, Green (coming soon) or Orange Route)

Fells point and Little Italy have some great low-cost restaurants that cater to a variety of tastes. Going out on a date alone is the #1 way to increase intimacy for one. There are great Italian, Mexican, Seafood, etc. restaurants that offer a variety of different foods for different budgets. The goal of this kind of dinner is not to engage in conversation with anyone else but to enjoy being alone without the hassle of being with someone else. Take a moment to sip some wine (or any favorite beverage) and just relax take in the sites of Fells point. It is easily Accessible by MTA bus and the FREE Charm City Circular (Orange Route).

Personally, I love classical music. Peabody conservatory located in Historic Mount Vernon is a great place to go to hear wonderful music from the next generation of musical talent and it’s great for budget conscious consumers. These aspiring young artists cater to a variety of instruments and tastes across the spectrum. Mount Vernon Park is also another lovely place to enjoy the sites of this wonderful City. Easily Accessible by MTA bus and the FREE Charm City Circular (Purple Route), Mount Vernon is a great place to relax and enjoy the Walters Art Museum, a great day at the park near the monument, or music by some of America’s best and brightest.

Based on the list from last time, exercising is also another great way to reduce stress and increase intimacy with oneself. In Baltimore there are two great places to exercise that are completely free: Druid Hill Lake and Lake Montebello. Both lakes are great for low impact running or walking to increase one’s physical fitness and decrease stress. Whether single parent or not, it is good to do some exercising to help clear the mind and lower the body’s risks for stress related illnesses such as diabetes, heart disease, high blood pressure, etc. These two lakes are open year round and great places to enjoy some of the beauty of nature that is in Baltimore City.

Intimacy for One: Single Parents Edition

mother-clipartIntimacy: closeness, familiarity, warmth, affection; close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group. (courtesy of

Google “intimacy” and one will pop up a bunch of sites about relationships and marriage. Not something that the single person wants to hear. Google “intimacy” and “single” and most of what pops up is a bunch of dating websites. Even the definition of intimacy (as stated on is biased against single people. Again, most single people don’t necessarily need to be reminded that they are single. There is no need to tell them over and over again that he or she is single and need another partner to find intimacy.

This is a different article. The total premise is about creating intimate moments with the self and being close, familiar, warm, and affectionate with yourself. If you are looking for a relationship, this helps you to enjoy the period of solidarity before finding that right partner IF you have decided that’s what you want to do. If you aren’t looking for a relationship, this helps you to achieve that intimate moment alone. If you are in a relationship, this blog can help you strengthen and find intimacy in your self that you can share it with your partner. “Intimacy for One” is about reconnecting to oneself on a personal level and finding that joy in having a loving personal relationship with the self.

Of single mothers, 45.9% are currently separated or divorced, 30.5% have never been married, and 1.7% are widowed. Single parenting statistics about single parent fathers who are custodial parents show that 56.4% are either separated or divorced, 23.1% are currently married, 19.7% have never been married and 0.8% are widowed. According to the Census Bureau’s Current Population Survey, one in three (33%) children live with only one parent, up from one in five (20%) in 1980.

This “epidemic” of single parenting as many would have you to believe creates many challenges for creating intimacy. Not only as a single parent does one have to face the time management, financial, etc. constraints, there are also societal pressures to be in a stable relationship (namely married) because people keep spewing statistics about how marriage works and children from two parent households do better than single parents. Well let us not get off topic; the purpose of this article is intimacy for ONE. That’s right, ONE. By being a single parent one doesn’t have plenty of “alone” time, but there are some simple things to help rekindle the intimacy within. Between the children schooling, working, personal endeavors, intimacy is not high on the list of things to do. However, creating intimacy is a great stress reliever and it does help to reduce potential stress-related illnesses like hypertension, diabetes, etc.

So, stop and think; a few moments a day can truly do wonders for the mind, body, and soul. Some of the things that a single parent can do to help promote intimacy are:
• Meditation: with or with out chanting
• Aroma therapy: buy some inexpensive candles and burn them when you are feeling stressed
• Light therapy: sit in a calming space that is adjusted to your liking (usually use the bathroom) and just relax by doing some deep breathing
• Long bath/shower: take a time once a week when the children are asleep and take a nice long bath/shower with or with out candles/bubbles/etc.
• Splurge once a week on something just for you be it lunch, a book, etc.
• Pick up a non child related hobby, that means if you are going to read, don’t read anything about or dealing with children read for pleasure
• Start low impact exercising. Its great for both the body and the soul


I have not the words to say
to begin to describe the way that I feel
the things that have happened to me feel
the unreal embrace the unnatural and enjoy the unparallel
to the things that I have known in the past
I love with a freedom that I have never known
a joy that seems to have grown
deep inside me and encouraged me to love
and to enjoy the newness that is us
You love me especially different
from everyone in the past
different from the last
man to grace these walls
and penetrate the defenses
bringing me closer to my senses
to see the depth of your eyes
to feel your hands on my hips
to smell the scent of your body
to taste the kisses off your lips
to hear the depth of your voice
a deep baritone
and fall prisoner every time
to the smell of your cologne
and yet every time I see you
I feel my self
falling deeper in love with you
and your natural charm
your manliness
even the strength in your arms
to protect me from harm
you are my knight and my castle
my king and my pawn
I enjoy being your queen
the light in your darkness
there until the dawn