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Sep 22

I ain’t saying she’s a gold digger…

For the record, I do not believe that Ray Rice’s wife is a gold digger. And quite honestly that’s not what this article is about. It’s about the travesty that is domestic violence and how one moment of thoughtlessness can reek havoc on two plus people’s lives. Actually, the only person that truly suffers in all of this is his daughter because she will have to learn of the shame that her parents brought to the Rice family name.

Ray Rice, Janay PalmerEveryone’s seen the video, the photos, heard the story, so I won’t go into it, but I will say this, it is a horrible act. No person, man or woman, should ever feel justified putting his or her hands on another person, drunk or not. Neither of their actions were acceptable for normal people or celebrities. She eggs him on; he retaliates. This is not the normal course of traditional domestic violence cases, but she was too quick to get in his face, and he was too quick to retaliate. I’m just speculating here but I don’t think this was either of their first merry-go-round.

Now what we see after all of this is the slew of charges being brought against players over years in the NFL being called to light because again, one moment of thoughtlessness costed a man his career, his lively hood, and has reeked havoc on his family. It has called into question the effectiveness of the NFL to truly and adequately monitor its players. Are they being model citizens as we often hope they are?

Ray Rice’s wife (then fiance) has stood by him through out this entire ordeal. Prompting some to feel that she is in it for the money. But even when he lost his endorsements, and contracts, etc, she’s still there because I think she loves him. Unfortunately, in the cycle of domestic violence, that is too often the problem, the victim still loves the abuser. And there is no way of telling whether it will or will not happen again. There is no real way of knowing if this was a one time instance or a recurring thing, but both of them need to seek counseling and help to make sure that the other victim, that little girl, doesn’t suffer as well.

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